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Toxic Relationships

Would it not be nice if people that were toxic for us were labeled as clearly as the drums in this picture? Since relationships are not labeled for us, we are on our own when it comes to relationships with other people. This means, at times, we are going to wind up in relationships that are toxic for us.

There is a reason why we call these relationships toxic; they have a negative impact on us. Yet we too often have trouble recognizing them for what they are or walking away from them. A toxic relationship leaves you feeling drained and worse about yourself. These relationships can be any kind of relationship and with anyone. They can be with your family, friends, co-workers or acquaintances.

There is a difference between a relationship that has its hard and trying periods and a toxic relationship. You can expect any relationship eventually to have a few rough patches. This is normal and you should expect it; however, in a toxic relationship, you encounter severe and recurring conflict. These relationships leave you drained emotionally. They may even start negatively affecting your health.

I am not immune to toxic relationships. It is important to understand that just because a relationship is toxic, does not mean that the people in the relationship are bad people. A perfect example of this is my first marriage. I will not go into the specifics of the relationship and what made it toxic, but after a few years, the marriage degraded into a toxic relationship.

We both made our mistakes; we both did things to hurt each other and drag each other down, but neither of us is a bad person. We were just bad for each other. Sometimes, the chemistry between the two people causes the toxicity.

I will write much more about toxic relationships over the next few months. This is entry is meant as a brief overview of them.  I do caution you, that there are many articles about toxic relationships online; however, be careful when you read them. Some of them may drag you down.

After reading some of them I felt like I was the problem and that I was toxic to everyone and should be avoided. I knew that was not true, but that was how I felt after reading those articles.

Edited: July 2nd, 2012

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